Do you care what type of Parent you are?

Tags

Children, Education, Future, Parenting, Parents

Are you a good Parent, I dont mean in the way most parents think, I am speaking of in the deepest sense of your duty as a parent. Are you the Parent of a future self sufficient member of society a leader, or at the very least not a future lemming that will mindlessly dash themselves on the rocks of servitude and conformity. The majority of our children between the ages of 14 and 28 are woefully unprepared for the world they must lead.
Read the paper, watch or listen to the news, look around you every day, can there be any question as to why the number one most important issue we face today is how our children are being raised.  Do they have a sense of both appreciation and gratitude, are they courteous and respectful, have you instilled in them an important sense of honor and duty? Which of your detrimental behaviors or mindsets have you passed on to them, your prejudices, biases or hatred? How about physical fitness, are you a lazy couch potato who is raising a fat lazy couch potato of a child, do you think this is acceptable? Do you push them to acheive, and teach them the importance of such out of pride or to help them be the best that they can be? You cannot any more live vicariously through your child than to completely give up on them. How consistent of a disciplinarian are you, do you let them know that although they may disappoint you, you will love and support them whenever and wherever possible? Do you spoil, or do you ignore, do you make excuses for bad behavior because of how in the end it may reflect shoddy parenting? Are you a coddler or do you use your child to push forward a social agenda by using them in experimental ways that make you feel in control? Although it’s an important start, just showing up is not enough, it is your duty to raise is an independent thinking and able bodied future generation. I’d like to believe that no one thinks parenting is easy, although I am sure the majority take their duty far too lightly, but the fact is, not one problem we face today cannot be solved a prepared, intelligent and hard working next and future generations. Life can and will throw us many curves when it comes to the little people in our homes, and nothing is guaranteed,  but with a little common sense and a great deal of care, we can win the future, one child at a time.
~ Nick Pensabene

Drugging our children, Why

Tags

ADHD, Autism, Children, Education, Parenting, Pharmaceuticals

We are creating zombies and monsters with our current rate of drugging our children, lazy parenting, an ancient approach to the sciences of the mind and a one size fits all approach to education are the biggest causes.
Thinking about putting your child on drugs, as a parent you have an obligation to question any diagnosis or classification that can pigeonhole or stigmatize your child for the rest of their life. Pharmaceutical mind altering drugs are not the answer, they are more often than not, a band-aid on an arterial laceration. Sometimes they are far more life threatening than that, creating zombies, psychotics, suicidal and even homicidal monsters. In our effort to create a better life for them and us, are we unwittingly destroying any possible future at normalcy for our children? Make no mistake by normal, I do not mean in comparison to our first children or the children of others, and I certainly am not speaking to the standards set by our Government controlled education system. Normal with regards to our mental and psychological well being, should be considered, the state we were born, without the consideration of genetic abnormalities or pre natal damage due to trauma or drug abuse.
All children are unique to a large extent and must be brought up, educated and handled as such, there is a need to revamp our educational efforts, and work on focusing our process of classification instead as we have in the past broadening them. (For example A.D.H.D. and Autism)
We need to work on making life much more bearable for the children who for over 30 years now have been diagnosed as different and drugged beyond recognition into acceptable beings.
Our children are most certainly the future, and if we continue to use them as experimental lab rats, we willingly create an unstable future. They cannot be the focal point of social engineering or temporarily politically correct behavior, children must be allowed to behave as children, and the rest must be handled with good strong parenting and an education system designed to work with an enhance the abilities of each child.
Vocational schools, aptitude tests and proper placement path counseling are key. Parents in multi child households should realize all children are not the same and there are many factors that play a role in how we see them, our age being one of them, so learning how to put our children first in a real, productive and intelligent way is the key, and to acheive that our pride
and egos must be checked at the door. Drugs are certainly option for some, but should truly be the last option for all.
~Nick Pensabene

Divorce, the lies we tell ourselves.

Tags

#Family, Children, Divorce, Marriage, Truth

“The damage of divorce”

What has done more to damage the American family and create emotionally damaged young adults than our laissez-faire attitude towards divorce. After all it is nothong more than the legal and systematic destruction of a family. Many of those with children who have divorced or who condone divorce would clamour against disturbing a birds nest or befouling the natural habitat of many a mammal. 
Do not misinterpret the meaning of my words, divorce, even where children are present is sometimes necessary, just not at the staggering rates as we have today.
There are times of spousal and/or child abuse, real physical or emotional abuse, when the victim spouse must leave as duty would dictate, despite what tripe you have been fed by enabling psych professionals. Either pack your bags, grab the children and leave, or you yourself become responsible for your own fate.
We as a society have not only
accepted familial divorce, we have created lies surrounding it, things like, children of divorce are much better off,  than living in a home without love or one filled with vitriol. These justifications are merely created in order to make us feel better about our own failures to for the sake of the family unit and the lives we’ve created to act in a civil and adult like manner. I have personally heard the words, “My children have turned out fine” many times and can only wonder, what an odd statement. Many child victims of sexual assault turn out fine also, but do we not do all in our power to shelter them from this possibility. 
I do not seek to indict those who have divorced,  that is history now and the damage is either done or not. What I can say to those same people is you owe it to your children to unite in your divorce as was never apparently possible during your marriage. You can never replace the broken family, but can do your best to properly raise your children.
If you are without children or not yet married, I ask you to seriously consider the responsibilities you must face before leaving the world of me and entering the land of us. Take no such duty lightly,  because all our futures depend on it.
   ~ Nick Pensabene

American Teachers & the Broken Education system

Tags

Children, Education, Teachers, Unions, Zero tolerance

Let me preface this by saying, I love teachers, they truly have an important job and I personally know many extremely dedicated educators that are friends and family. They are in fact one of the most self congratulatory groups I have ever experienced. Every post or article I read goes on extolling the virtues of all teachers as a group. This is just not true, as there are many teachers who are just riding the broken system for prosperity and have lost their desire to rise above or fight the system that is failing both our children and society. This group circle the wagon mentality is one of the major downfalls to our education process, this and the politicizing of it by the self serving and overly corrupt teacher’s unions.
There are Zero tolerance rules in place that are just stifling independent thought, and cause fear and resentment within the ranks of teachers children and parents, but that is not enough to foment change.The education system has been being used for the purposes of social engineering for far too many years, when it should be teaching free and independent thinking for all members within that system. We need to stop pandering to the litigious nature of the people in this country, or appeasing the minority,we should be creating a higher standard for all, not lowering or altering them to meet the needs of those who cannot keep up. Every child deserves an education befitting their aptitude, and with some adjustments to the system they all can rise to the highest level of personal achievement. We are being left far behind by many countries whose wealth does not remotely compare to ours. Through a plan that includes the arts,trade and vocation training, professional business training and even ROTC training for thosed destined for the military. No child should be enrolling in entitlement programs, living on the streets, committing crimes, selling drugs or their bodies to get by, there is a place in this economy for everyone,  willingness to succed and achieve is paramount. Any persons not enrolled and maintaining average grades must serve 3 years in one of our nations military branches, where aptitude will be defined and utilized to meet each persons potential.
There are many ways in which the education system is broken and the fingers of blame point in every single direction. Teachers are not being blamed nor are they unappreciated or under appreciated, they are part of a machine that is breaking down, and as much as they try to separate themselves from it, they cannot. In that capacity they must be willing to take their portion of the blame. I’m sure many of you have stories of great and seemingly altruistic teachers or administrators, but that information albeit very nice, serves no purpose but to stall the necessary changes that must be made. Do not so foolish as to defensively react to articles like mine, only half read and less comprehended, keeping your minds and eyes closed to the truth which does no one any good and will be sure to lead to a worsening school system. Where we go from here with regards to how badly we are failing our future generations is entirely up to us all.
~ Nick Pensabene